SEXpectations

"If we sleep together would it make it any better?" - Mirah, "La Familia"

I have had this song stuck in my head for the past few days. First of all, it is very catchy. And second, what it says has got me thinking. This is the phrase every guy wants to hear. Guys give you bullshit about not wanting to sleep with them till they make you feel horrible. And of if you "sleep together it [will] make it better"..... for HIM, not for the girl. Now that I am in my twenties I feel the pressure even more so. Sleeping with someone is now an expectation held by many people. Especially if you want a relationship to last for more than two weeks! "You mean I have to sleep with you on the second date just so you can take me out?" What the heck? How did our society go from one extreme to the other? I just don't understand the progression that has happened so suddenly in the last thirty years. It's horrible to feel this pressure when you are going out with a guy. I would not like to think that a guy is only taking me out to a nice dinner and a movie just to make me feel as if I owe him something. "Yeah, if I feed her and entertain her for two hours, she will certainly have to entertain me later. It's only fair. They wanted equality." And yeah, when did equality become the reason for the loss of chivalry, kindness, and manners? Gaining the right to vote does not give you men the permission to treat us like complete assholes. That's why women are more and more vile, fierce, and hostile now towards the opposite sex. We are just protecting ourselves from your ways. And that gives you the incentive to be even worst, and then the whole cycle continues. We both have to stop!!!