I realized today that I missed being hugged on a daily basis. I know it may sound weird or maybe to some people a little bit disturbing. But to me showing physical affection is very important. Now, hugging does not only have to be an activity shared between you and your significant other (there are other things the two can do), hugging is also an action between two (or sometimes even more people) people who have a deep (non-sexual) love and mutual respect for one another. I miss very much Sandwich Hugs.... Sean, Mitch, and Nick would wrap themselves around me, leaving me in the middle and would hug me till I started yelling, 'Stop!' They said I yelled out of pleasure. Or, when my brother hugs me. He wraps his huge arms around me, cracks my back, and then lifts me up into the air. There is nothing like feeling loved and also getting a massage at the same time. Then, there are the ultimate hugs from my mom and dad. (However, I have never found someone who can hug me so intensely and loving all at one time like my mom.) In my parents' hugs I feel safe, protected, and like a child of 5 once again. No harm would come my way. It is a haven for safe keeping that only I can experience.
But what I really dislike are Hugs that do not mean anything...hugs, that don't have any feelings behind them. A hug is an embrace and in an embrace one should not be able to so easily escape. Hugs that are disintegrated with just one push are not worth giving nor receiving. I also believe that through a hug one can transmit energy to another. So, if you give me a lame weak hug you are filling me with doubt, sadness, and insecurity. But hug me tightly and warmly and you will have my attention and, of course, smiling.
Hmm... I think you're right on with the hugs there gaby... your hugs always were special!
ReplyDeleteHope you're doing well!
PS. sorry the reply is late, I just discovered your blog last night!